The Idea Of Balance – Can One Have It All?

The hustle is real. No time for rest as rest depicts laziness or irrelevance in the society. Everything is fast-paced. The earth is spinning and the planet’s inhabitants seem pathologized. What would our lives be like if we understood the idea of balance?

In a world where so many things are competing for our attention, how do we have it all? Faith, family, friends, career, business, success (whatever that means to you). What is the correct ratio of responsibility to reward? Who tells us when to be and when to do? How much work is too much for a woman or man? What is balance? And, are we okay if we cannot keep up all at once?

The reason I ask so many questions is I love to understand the dynamics of my conscientiousness. You should reflect on them as well and provide answers tailored to you. What I will be handling very quickly in the following paragraphs are the last two questions.

“Balance is the state of doing wholly, what is important per time while maintaining sanity and happiness”- MARVELOUS IBANGA

Let me modify. When I say the state, I mean the firm place where things are unable to fall apart. An existential problem of trying to arrive at a compromise of what should be done or not abounds. Don’t worry, you will understand me shortly. The state is a location that makes your life meaningful.

Doing wholly, therefore, means engaging sufficiently without being distracted by self or competing tasks. Your mind can create the illusion that being overworked translates to a level of societal relevance. For example, you get home to your spouse, and rather than communicate freely and be present in the moment, miss out on loving right at that instance because your mind still has office tabs open and running.

At other times, the problem is not in your inability to be still. Other things might be struggling for your attention. The catch is to determine and execute what is relevant per time. Everything can be important, but not everything is important at every time.

Giving your focus to what needs you in any given moment only becomes balance when you are maintaining your sanity and happiness. Nothing should be too relevant to kill you with anxiety and depression. Protect your mental health and refuse to buy anything that costs you happiness.

You do not need to keep up with everything all at once! By practicing this, I realize my version of balance is different from what most people perceive as balance. I do not need to handle in the same minute my faith, relationship, finances, leisure simultaneously. I only need to utilize my intelligence and adaptive capacity (yes, we all have that). Thus, I decide what takes precedence in any given moment and keep switching, as time flows, to the next most important thing, all within the confines of my terms and conditions earlier explained.